There comes a time when one gets literally overwhelmed with what is going on, and I can safely claim that in my case, Activate, Deployment and going into harms way is alot easier to deal with than things like Divorce.
There is NO malice here, far far from it. In combat or battle situations, one has team work and allies, Divorce is NOT that simple. Today I, personally had my first "Panic attack" No one is immune, or if they claim they are, is either lacking in emotion, or intellect. No arguement to be offered, Take it or leave it.
This reminds me of one very simple rule, if you will. No person is an island, and at some point in time, even the toughest needs help, be it a person to talk to and listen to, or something.
Masking toughness with other activities or actions is not dealing with the issue at hand. Dealing with hard times is just that, you deal , cope, bounce back and awake to a new day, because "quitting/ surrendering " is Not an option!.
Stress, well Identify it and figure out ways, Positive, Healthy ways to deal with it. Stress Happens, What you do with it is your choice and decision.
Yeah, I could be a "Basket Case" and the whole "Pity Party" cycle of "Analysis/Paralysis" aka Emotional Trauma and Shock.
Do it better, get help ASAP, A tough person knows when They need help. A good, Tough person knows to ask for it. Acknowledging the need for assistance is HUGE,
This takes the sort of "Moral Courage/GUTS/Intestinal fortitude/Strength of Character" that also drives the will to survive, to deal and to get on , with getting on, today and every day there after.
Today , I lost a day of what I thought I could/should do, Today I asked for and got Help. NO judgements, no "You are Weak" or other garbage.
Yeah it can be easier to get up into some ones "stuff" and make things "life altering" that is easy, when you are trying to deal, and think you have few if any resources, get out of the pity pit and ask for help. Pure and simple, for some there are Congregations/Communities or other social groups. What ever it is Get the help, before crap happens!
In addition to trying to provide, protect and support those you care about, remember that you also have to take time for yourself.
As a wise fellow recently told me "Time to put away the cape." Heros are human, remember that. (No disrespect to DC/Marvel Comics).
Family may be helpful, If you have family, get past the BS and grow, help where and when you can. Be honest when you can not be there, Ahead of time.
Not all of us have the luxury of being within 20 minutes of travel time in peak traffic to get to our family members.
Quitting is NOT an option, No matter how bad or deep things may get, Do Not Quit!
Sorry if I am appearing to be preachy, but I needed to get this out, after the day I have had, and I look forward to the day tomorrow as it is a new day, and I have things to do inorder to survive and thrive in hard times.
An old Military Buddy, Jeff, reminded me a long time ago "Hard Times do not last, Hard People do." He was one of the first ones to smile at his own foibles, and remind all of us, that with team work we can be truly impressive with out much more that a clear thought, a good heart and motivation.
My personal thanks to Prismheart, who while is no longer wanting to be my wife, has been concerned about me, My Brother, My Mom , Todd and Becky Who have made thier marriage work for somthing like 23 or 24 yearsm and Jeff H for reminding me that tomorrow is another day, another chance and another oppertunity, so long as I keep it together, and some times that means "Please hand me that lug wrench and the wheel nut while I replace yet another tire on the car that is the vehicle through life."
